How To Treat Guys With Girlfriends

You have a guy friend. You assumed he liked you or had any kind of special, romantic feelings towards you. Something we've all done! There's no proof that a guy likes you until he says it out loud to your face. But, we often follow his actions or other words that just seem to scream, "I like you as more than a friend". And that's what makes it pretty difficult when a girlfriend just appears out of nowhere! Happened to me numerous times. Now, here's what to do if it happens to you.

Picture from the post, Your Best Friend (click ME)

If the whole Level One (click HERE) concept isn't working for you, I have two solutions for you. 
Warning: they are slightly contradictory.

1. Think of him as a good friend who is a girl. Let's say your guy with the girlfriend is coming into town after a long time a way. Even if I haven't seen my best friend (who happens to be female) in a long time, I don't sit around and imagine our reunion. I don't worry about what to say to her or how to behave. I don't scrutinize a hug that hasn't even happened yet. I don't worry about what I'll wear or how I'll apologize if my hair looks gross because we'll never be romantically interested in each other. It's not a possibility. And I'd never ever think that she was into me unless she said "I like you as more than a friend" to my face. And even then, I still wouldn't believe her! I think, in some ways, treating your thoughts as if he's a girl will help with anticipation and over-analyzing. The following posts could help:

Anticipation 

Over-Analyzer

2. Think of how you'd want your future boyfriend to behave. Sometimes, when wondering how to treat guys with girlfriends, we just have to wonder how we would want our ideal man to act. Let's say your boyfriend 3 years from now is going back home after a long trip and you're accompanying him. How would you like his female friends to treat him? Would you like them to press their chests against him as they hug? Or would you like them to give him a slightly more appropriate welcome back home? Even if you trust that he won't do anything with them, it would still be nice if these friends of his respected your existence. Go with me here. Just some food for thought.

Here's something else you have to remember: 

The girlfriend will always have more claim over him than you do. 

He's not your property. You don't own him because you knew him longer. So, on a ROMANTIC scale, keep it to a Level One. On a friendship scale, like him as much as you want! But separate the two areas of your heart. I know. Easier said than done.

Maybe this post can help:

Guarding Your Heart

Love,

Zabrinah