Facebook Etiquette

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So, you know you shouldn't pursue him--with all your might--in real life. We all get why (click ME if you don't). But, what about the virtual world? Is there such a thing as Facebook Etiquette?

If you recall, Question #5 of the Dominant Energy quiz is:

When you click, "See Friendship" on facebook, is it just a whole bunch of you posting on his wall? 

That's what Dominant Energy on facebook looks like.

It looks like a "stalkerish" relationship, in which you are the stalker.


Facebook Etiquette


Lesson One: You can friend him first. In real life, we befriend people all the time. It's never really a question of who started the friendship first. I don't look around at my friends and wonder who pursued who. Nope. And why not? Because it's just a friendship! Our intentions are platonic. In my opinion, it's perfectly fine to friend a person on facebook first, as long as you don't have some secret ulterior motive of making him fall in love with you.

Lesson Two: If you're crushing on the guy, don't post on his wall first. This lesson could change, depending on the situation (people have birthdays, or maybe he's a co-worker and you need some information). But, I advise against trying to woo your crush or get him to like you through facebook at all. Don't be that person who posts smiley faces with tongues sticking out and flirty messages all over his page. That's just weird. You're a human being. He's a human being. Try interacting in real life.

Lesson Three: Don't poke him first. I just think poking the guy you like on facebook is very odd. Very awkward. And very obvious. It definitely shows him that The Switch is on.

Lesson Four: NEVER EVER send a private message confessing your love to him. This is a definite temptation that most of us go through. You may have NO idea how mortifying the situation could become. Or maybe you've observed this firsthand, as I have. There is just something so wrong about the facebook private message or even writing a letter to stuff in his locker or briefcase. Whether your message is accusatory or full of lovey dovey hearts and exclamation points. Don't do it.
Don't believe me? Please read Finding the Courage to Tell Him and When Writing Letters Becomes A Problem to find out more.

Conclusion

Overall, it's difficult to create a Facebook Etiquette, simply due to the numerous scenarios that could come into play. Just use common sense. When in doubt, ask yourself, "Would it freak me out if the roles were reversed?"

If he was looking through your photos at 3AM in the morning, would you be creeped out? If he was always posting on your wall, liking your pictures, and commenting on your statuses, would you consider blocking him? These are the questions we must ask ourselves.

If you have any other facebook woes, please click on any of the following articles:

• The Facebook Test: Part One
• The Facebook Test: Part Two
• The Facebook Test: Part Three
• Look At That Profile Picture

If your facebook issue hasn't been covered yet, feel free to email me!

Sincerely hope this helped!

Love,

Zabrinah