When A Guy Compliments You

"Beauty times two! Muah!" 

Last October, my best friend and I were outside of a Whole Foods when a guy driving by yelled this at us. At first, we didn't know what he meant. Beauty times two? But, after a short bit of discussion with each other, it dawned on us. It was a compliment! And let me tell you, we drank that up. Our voices went into this high-pitched state of squealing happiness. He thought I was beautiful! He thought the both of us were! We continued to recap the event (read Recap right HERE) all day long.

That one compliment has continued to live on.

Tips on Compliments

I'm still recapping this story and it happened over a year ago! With a guy I saw a glimpse of! A guy I'm not even into! What does that tell you? Compliments go a long way. Thankfully, the guy at Whole Foods was pretty harmless because I never got his name or even a good look at his face. There was no concrete person to pine over or even facebook stalk.

But what happens when the guy you know you shouldn't like starts to boost your ego?

1. Some guys know that it means a lot and abuse it. Read The Douchebag (click HERE).

2. Some guys genuinely mean what they say, but they have absolutely NO ROMANTIC INTEREST in you. Read The Survival Guide To Attraction (click ME).

3. Some guys definitely think you're hot, have romantic interest in you, but are NEVER going to ask you out or express their interest for some undefined reason you're just gonna have to guess at. Read The Pre-Pursuit (click HERE).

4. Work on your confidence and know how to take a compliment when you get one.

Nothing screams low self-esteem louder than this:

HIM: You look very nice today.

YOU: (very seriously) No, I don't. Please don't say that. Please don't lie to my face. I haven't combed my hair in weeks. I'm such a slob. 

Conclusion

On "The Office", B. J. Novak's character, Ryan, once threw away a golden yogurt lid that a fellow co-worker made for him. It was supposed to represent a gold medal for participating in the "office olympics". As the camera caught him throwing away his "medal", Ryan said something along the lines of:  

"I could either throw it away now, or wait six months and then throw it away."

You don't want to hold onto a compliment from a guy just because you find it to be the only validation that you're pretty or smart or talented or someone special. Not healthy. Even if it made you feel good inside, there comes a time when you have to let it go. Cherish it, but do not obsess over it. Find that Healthy Medium (click ME).

In some cases, you've just got to take a compliment, appreciate it for a moment, and then throw it away.

Hope that makes sense!

Love,

Zabrinah