It's A Choice

Choosing to like a guy is a choice. Why? Because we have command over what we do with our emotions. When you open the gates of your heart instead of guarding it, you make a choice. Taking back your ex-boyfriend when he's released from jail is a strong choice, isn't it? So is having sex for the first time. And so is deciding to like the one guy in your friend group because you're lonely. We make an infinite amount of choices everyday. Each letter I type is a choice. Each breath you continue to take is a choice. Each guy you love is a choice. But, how do we separate choice from feeling?

It's A Choice, Not A Feeling

Sometimes you don't feel like doing stuff. For instance, some days, I wake up and I don't FEEL like being happy. But guess what? Happiness is a choice, not a feeling. Some days, I sit in front of my computer and I don't FEEL like blogging. But guess what? Blogging is a choice, not a feeling.

Some days, I see a really cute douchebag (click ME) walk into my life and I FEEL like getting consumed (click ME) with him. I FEEL like daydreaming (click ME) about him. I FEEL like eloping with him. I FEEL like forgetting he's a douchebag. I FEEL like spending the rest of my life with him because the passion is that strong.

I FEEL embarrassed when he plays me like a fool.

Guess what? Romance is a choice, not just a feeling.

It's not even a question of acting on your feelings anymore. This is about making positive, constructive, developmental choices that force you to change directions, walk the other way, and leave that jerk alone.

Love,

Zabrinah