December 8, 2011

How Do I Turn Off The Switch?

If you haven't read The Switch yet, it's right HERE.

Here's the latest:

Hey!

For your first problem, I TOTALLY understand what that's like. If you keep trying to be a Level One with even the most attractive of guys (and I have run into some model-types), I guarantee that you will see glimpses of true acquaintanceship. These glimpses are really encouraging and discouraging at the same time because they come and go. Sometimes, it will be one step forward and four steps back. But remember that you have a clean slate each day. Even if you were giggling like a maniac yesterday and gave him the cold shoulder the day before, you have to continue trying to treat him like a Level One. The key to achieving it is not giving up. Practice most definitely makes perfect in this situation.


I don't think it's messed up to have a select list or category of guys that you're really friendly to. It's hard to achieve a healthy love life when you're especially friendly to everyone. By knowing who to give a hug to and who to just smile and nod at seems like one of the understated keys to guarding your heart pretty well. I know that it seems like you can't meet Mr. Right this way, but you deserve a guy who respects that you're not ready to date at this time. If he is Mr. Right, then he'll certainly understand. He'll wait patiently and be your friend for as long as it takes (I'm not joking; this legitimately happens all the time). He won't alarm you by trying to move too fast. He won't stalk you or try to get to close. He won't force his selfish desires unto you. 


Love,


Zabrinah

He'll know how to love you well, remember?



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4 COMMENTS:

  1. Sometimes I get nervous that if I treat a guy who I'd be interested in dating like a Level 1, then he'll think I don't like him and won't pursue me. Should I worry about that? Will he be turned off by my treating him like just a friend?

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  2. If he's the guy for you, then you shouldn't be worried because he won't be turned off by you treating him as a friend. If he likes you, he will make it extremely clear and pursue you. A guy that is turned off by your friendship IS someone to worry about.

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  3. So when he finaly says that he likes me.. what do i do then? i feel like if im still acting level 1 to him he'll think im not intrested and move on.. or maybe he asks me if i like him too? i mean what do i say? im not supposed to like him yet because he up to that point i didnt like anyone till they said they liked me so i worry he'll think hes got me and be bored and move on?

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  4. As a guy,

    Put me in the friend zone early on and I will not consider you date worthy again. I don't date friends (wont chance ruining a friendship) and I'm not attracted to women who can't admit to themselves what they want and go for it, like I would.

    It's about honesty, (the key to healthy relationships of any kind) not just to herself but also to me. A good glimpse into the person I'm about to get to know.

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