Dream On

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Hey!

Dreaming of the guy you once liked is not a rare thing. It still happens to me. It happens to all of us. It's true that you can be a Level 2 and still dream about a guy on a consistent basis. What brings you to a Level 3 is when you begin to dwell on the dreams and subsequently, act on them.

 

What do I do when I dream of a crush from years ago (or even a current one)? First of all, I don't blame myself or get angry about it. But, I also don't go in the complete opposite direction and begin to recall all the things I used to love about him. I allow myself ONE RECAP, of the dream and perhaps even a quick journal entry if it was really out of the ordinary. Just one recap.

You don't have to exactly what I do. However, I refuse to let my dreams dictate how I behave towards the guys in my life. My general tips, concerning this situation are:

1. Focus on what you can control. Whether you like it or not, you have no command over your dreams. And you shouldn't expect yourself to. You can control what you do when you're awake.

2. Make a conscious effort to behave normally. If you're going to tell your best friend about the dream, use that as your one recap. Don't try to sneak him into your conversations. And please don't go up and talk to him for the first time in months because you had a dream.

3. Don't daydream before bed. Don't recap the day's romantic escapades before you go to sleep. I know this seems like common sense, but it's crazy how these things translate into fantasy, dominant energy, and being consumed by one guy you've never said more than two words to. You know that Relationship in Your Head? It really thrives at night and produces itself through your dreams.

If #3 is a definite problem for you (as it was for me), please read: 

Disappointment With Reality (click ME).

And also, don't forget "The Pact". Liking a guy after he already admitted to liking you and is actively pursuing you, is a whole lot sweeter than stalkerish obsession from afar. Guard that heart!

4. Tell yourself, "It's no big deal". Especially when the dream demands a second recap, and a third, and a fourth, and so on. 

Ever since I started following these tips with my dreams (for the last year and a half), I have had significantly less of them. And, my mind KNOWS--deep down to the core--that my dreams do not have to translate into action. I have crazy-emotional heart. We all do. No wonder it needs guarding.

:)

Love,

Zabrinah

P.S. If you're seeking anymore help or clarification on WHY you're dreaming about him, go ahead and read: In Your Dreams (click HERE).