The Guy That's "Just For Show"

Have you ever met that guy that's ... just for show? Around certain people, he'll be your BEST friend. But catch him with another social group, and he barely says a word to you. Many types that I've covered before have exhibited this particular trait (The Douchebag and The Magnet for example) but The Guy That's Just For Show is a little more special than that. He deserves his own article due to one little thing ... the empty promises--and the effect they have on your heart.

Identifying Him

It's very easy to identify The Guy That's Just For Show.

1. He'll say things like this ....

"We should talk on facebook!"


"We should hang out sometime."


"I'll email you."


"If we're both going to be in town this summer, let's spend time together."


"I have your number. I'll be in contact."

... And then never live up to them.

2. He's the perfect mixture of the guy that asks you questions (click ME for Why Would He Ask That?) and Mr. Random, at best.

3. He'll force you to be the Dominant Energy (click ME). He's that guy who gives you his number, so that you'll have to call him first. He wants you to take the driver's seat so that he can jump out of the car at anytime. And if you watch carefully, you'll find out that car-hopping is his specialty.

He Has Issues That Go Deeper Than Just You.


Why is he the way that he is?


1. He’s using you in order to fulfill something that he’s not getting enough of (i.e. attention, love …). Once he gets the attention he wants from his friends, his parent, or his true love interest, he doesn't need you anymore. You’re his back-up, back-up, back-up girl. His second, or sometimes, even fifth choice.


2. He likes the idea of you, but not enough to actually pursue you. With this guy, you may find yourself always at the stage of The Pre-Pursuit (click ME). 


3. He's insecure.


What To Do About It

You could just be dealing with a guy that makes empty promises. We all make them sometimes. When someone approaches us that we don't want to interact with, we may say certain things based on formalities. I'm guilty of it. We've all said, "I'll call you later", and then never picked up the phone.

When The Guy That's Just For Show promises you something, don't expect anything. Go on with your day. Not expecting anything (and feeling perfectly neutral about it ... aka Level 1) is the only win-win situation in love.

Love,

Zabrinah