Do You Really Want To Get Well?

Do you really want to get well? Or are you just looking for an easy solution?

If you're anything like I was, you might be shocked at this question. Do you want to get well? The obvious answer is, "Yes! Of course I do. If something's not working, I want to fix it!" But, I encourage you to sit down and honestly think about it. Do you?

It's Okay If The Answer Is "No"

It's only fair if I'm honest with all of you:

I am still a work in progress.

My old self would have LOVED a blog like this. But, not for the reasons you think. Old Zabrinah would have come to a website like this with the hopes of feeding her boy obsessions instead of curing them. I would have read posts like Signs That He Likes You (click ME) with a certain boy in mind, just hoping and praying that he was into me, too. So, here's my question: Are you like the Old Zabrinah--hoping to feed your destructive habits under the guise of working to fix them? Are you all for self-improvement when you read a post, but then looking through all of his facebook pictures in a new tab? Are you giving sane love advice to your friends, and then not following through with it when you're on your own? Who are you when nobody's looking? And if that person needs to change for the better, are you willing to do it?

Either way, I cannot judge you. I was you. The Old Zabrinah will always a part of me. If I just forget and erase her, I wouldn't have any experiences/mistakes to base my life off of now. However, I've come to realize that her desires must be evaluated harshly and objectively. 100% of the time, her wants and "needs" must be starved. If I give in a little, I end up giving a lot. I lose focus and get off track. That gal is dangerous, I tell you.

If you've read Afraid to Be Happy (click ME), then you understand that an obsession-free life may be uncharted territory for some of us. It's a narrower path--a more difficult journey to travel. Of course, the benefits of the trickier path surpass the benefits of those who are still clinging to boy-craziness, stalking, and intense daydream. But, how do we let go?

We sit down and make a decision that we want to get better. We want to sacrifice and give up our old ways of thinking in order to gain some new results. It's not a temporary decision. Once you make it, your actions must immediately change. What your thought life dwells on must immediately change. And you have to tell yourself everyday, every hour: This Is My Life Now (click ME). If you're not happy with where your love life is heading, then I recommend changing something within you. A lot of us carry out the same actions and expect different results. Life doesn't work like that. If you're sick, a doctor wouldn't recommend doing the same things that got you that way.

I just want to let you all know that I write every post with Old Zabrinah in mind. She's always looking for a bargain--for a way to get better and keep her obsessive tendencies. And she'll come up with some convincing points. However, I'll try my best not to lead you astray, even if you're not quite ready to get well yet.

Love,

Zabrinah

P.S. Now about that posting everyday thing. I'm going to try harder to make that vision a reality! The Bandwagon is still waiting for me!