The Undercover Pimp: Part Two

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By popular demand, he's back. Oh, yes. The Undercover Pimp strikes again. Out of all the types I discovered and described in detail, he is still the most elusive. This guy leaves you breathless, with a list of insurmountable questions. Why did he do this? Why did he do that? What does he want from me? After an encounter with him, all you can think of to do is: vent. And vent. And vent. And vent. So, I'm happy I got this email. What should we do when The Undercover Pimp comes to play with our minds? It's time to put a plug in that emotional outlet. 

If you have not yet read The Undercover Pimp, please go HERE and read it, so that you are not confused to the point of destruction. I wouldn't want that to happen to you. Read the article. Please and Thank You. 

The main thing I learned about The Undercover Pimp is that he doesn't rip your heart out and stomp on it ... on purpose. And yet, it happens.

Recapping a bit of Part One, when asking yourself the question: "What does he want from me?", there are three options: 

1. He wants to be liked. 

2. He wants to be popular.

3. He wants to get some. 

The tricky thing is that A LOT of guys fit that criteria. But some things make The Undercover Pimp very special. My best advice is to ...

Get a handle on yourself!

Yes, easier said than done. You cannot control him, but you can definitely take command command over yourself--your own mind--your own thoughts. Find something much MORE important than him (like your career, for instance) and CLING to it. Be committed to productivity. If you make the effort to do this, I assure you--he will fade away. 

Stop worrying so much about what he's up to, what he's saying, and how he feels. It doesn't really matter. It shouldn't be an important factor in your life. If you're a little unsure whether The Undercover Pimp likes you or not, then it's safe to assume he doesn't. He isn't into you. He's into everyone. That's just how he is. No big deal. Read Signs That He Likes You (HERE) if you need convincing. 

Plugging The Outlet

But, Zabrinah. What about all the pent-up emotions/feelings/and questions??! I can't get him out of my mind. I need to vent! Aaaaaahhhhh!

If you're not careful, The Undercover Pimp will leave you in need of an emotional outlet. And that might lead you to like/date/obsess over some random guy, just because you can. That's wrong. We shouldn't use men to fulfill our emotional needs. Instead, try doing this:

• Write a letter to your future husband. I know this sounds cheesy or weird, but if you can direct those emotions to a safer place, your head will clear. YOU CAN BE SANE AGAIN. If a guy you know you shouldn't date is running through your mind, just write to the guy you will spend the rest of your life with. What should you write about? The things he can do to make you happy--bring you flowers, know when you're sad, make chicken soup when you're sick, or construct his hugs to smell like heaven. You can write whatever you want. Just make sure you do it. I'm not saying you have to give these letters to the guy you end up with, but you have to admit that it would be the best wedding gift ever. 

I promise that if you focus on the right things, a certain someone won't be a problem. The Undercover Pimp has ceased to be an echo of worry or even the slightest issue in my life. I hope the same for all of you!

Love,

Zabrinah