Just Because He Exists

He's similar to The Guy No One Else Wants (click ME), but slightly different. He's the guy that all the girls want because he's pretty much the only eligible guy around. But, he can't be everyone's type right? And yet, they're all falling for him. Odd, isn't it? Why does it happen? Just because he exists.

Sometimes, we all want someone to like. And we're tired of waiting for him to show up. So, we take things into our own hands. I have a theory that in certain environments--where there is only one eligible, decent guy around that you see on a regular basis--all the ladies involved will fall for him. Even if he's not their type, even if he's not a person who fits most of their standards. A lot of us will like him before we know anything concrete about him.

Desperation

We like him only because he exists. He exists in a male-deprived environment and we feel lonely. Rarely does the one available guy at the workplace, the one sweet guy at church that all the girls fawn over, or the one cute guy in your class ever turn out to be your soul mate. When you like a guy just because he exists, you usually do so because you don't really know him.

So, if you don't know him and he doesn't know you, how do you like him? I think we project all our standards and our hopes and dreams on him, whether he actually exhibits those traits or not. This can only be desperation.

How can you tell if you like a guy just because he exists?

One way, is to wait it out. If you think you have a crush on a guy (and he's the only guy you could show interest in at the moment), wait until you get to know him before you decide to like him.

I knew four girls who all liked the same guy. He was definitely the only guy they could like at the time. They fought over him and basically tried to win his affections. He kind of went along with it, being friendly and cordial to all of them--never showing any preference. When I asked the ladies what was going on, they all said that they would be satisfied just to be friends with him or have him in their lives as a big brother (a whole other subject I must touch upon this month). Skip ahead to a year later and they are not interested anymore. More guys have entered the environment. The one they originally liked is still the same person--nice, friendly, and courteous--but they've ALL moved on. Some of them have even asked me, "What was I thinking? He's definitely not my type." 

That's how you know if you like a guy simply because he's a ... guy. Sometime, we have to be a little more picky.

Love,

Zabrinah