I Know You Like Him So Much, But You've Got To Stop

Sometimes, I get fed up. This post will be an experience to vent. 

I have been observing a lot lately ... and not liking what I see. 

Last night, at a cafe, I watched a girl hug, kiss, and lean all over a guy. She desperately tried to hold his hand. She flirted with him in the form of loud insults. She placed her head on his shoulder and her hand on his chest. And during the entire two hours this went on, he did not reciprocate. All you could hear from him was awkward laughter and stunted chuckles. The guy knew he was being pursued, and he sat with his body turned away from her--his hands in his lap. Now, he was obviously uncomfortable, but somehow, that was not enough to deter her HIGHLY CONSPICUOUS advances.

You want to know the worst part? They weren't dating. He is much younger than her and has a girlfriend of his own. The girl in the scenario above, knows all of this. So, why is she so boy-crazy? Why is she acting on this crush when there is no way for it to be realized? Why do you and I do these things? Why do a great majority of women rely on desperation when it comes to choosing men to be attracted to?

I am fed up with this kind of behavior. It gets me all fiery because I've been there; I've done that (or at least had similar intentions). And now I want to help.

On the other hand, I know you like him so much. You look forward to seeing him and spending time with him. It seems like you can't help but go crazy over the few things he does. You feel like you can't help but be the dominant energy in this relationship, because if you stop, the relationship will cease to exist ... and you couldn't bear to deal with that.

See? I do get it. Clinging to him and being the dominant energy is like holding onto a rare, beautiful, valuable, fluttering bird that's trying to escape by pecking your fingers. You don't like it, but you wouldn't dare let it go.

I understand what it's like to really really really like a guy, and not have those feelings returned. But, if there's one thing you can learn from this blog, it's:


if someone wants to fade out of your life, you let him go.

You do not hesitate. You do not beg and plead with him. You do not brainstorm ways to get him to stay. You let him go. That's it. That's the core of this blog. I believe it's one of the essentials to happiness. You don't want someone who's trying to escape--no matter how wonderful or valuable a person he may be.

Okay, my rant is over. Regular posting will resume. Here are the titles of the next two I must write in order to get my points across and regain my sanity:

Pathetic


Body Language

Love

~Zabrinah