Stop Texting Him Back!

There are times when I actually have to shout at my best friend to stop texting certain guys back. It's kind of crazy. I have to explicitly forbid her from doing it, or else there's too much grey area for her to wander around in. She does the same thing for me, and now I'll make it clear for you.


There are some guys that do not deserve even the slightest of responses.


Let's find out who they are. 

• The Manipulator (click ME), The Douchebag (click ME), The Non-Commital Guy (click ME), The Bad Boy (click ME), Mr. Random & His Issues (click ME), Jerks (click ME), and the guy who texts you at 3:47 AM (click ME) do not get a response. Ever. That is a hard and fast rule. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about this. I don't care if he's just asking about the weather, or being really sweet or really funny. You don't get to text him back! You cannot answer their phone calls either. 
• No phone communication with them!

Why?

Here are two solid reasons:


1. They are frosting shots. This term comes from the article, Frosting & Cake (please read ME). And guess what? Their frosting is super toxic. It attaches to your frosting/cake and distorts the overall composition, including the ingredients-- the appearance of your confidence, your attractiveness, your magnet, and even your romantic foundation.

2. They are rotten branches on your tree. If you didn't get the first metaphor, you're sure to get this one. Just read The Pruning Tree (over HERE). That article holds the solution to cutting those branches off and starting fresh.



"I Still Want To Be A Nice Person"


Don't worry about not appearing nice. You need to stay healthy. I care about your well-being more than his feelings. And chances are he will either:

a. Not notice or not react.

or

b. Call you "mean" anyway (or something along those lines) in order to manipulate you into communicating with him.


Another type of guy that doesn't get a text back is:
someone you are not interested in romantically.


Here's an example. A guy that you have no interest in ever seeing/dating again, texts this to you:

"I had a really fun time on our date last night. We should do it again."

Guess what? This does not warrant a response. I'm serious. Do not text him back if you are not interested in dating him. He didn't leave a question in his text message, so there is no good reason to respond. If you lie, and write back, "Yeah, me too!", then you're giving him the wrong idea. That's leading him on.


But, isn't it rude to not respond?

I used to think that until my good friend told me about all the creepers she attracted early on (that's a whole other post right there!), when she was concerned with "trying to be nice". Sometimes, we care too much about what other people think of us. The nicest thing to do is not reciprocate or generate a feeling that isn't there. You should ALWAYS be polite in person, but I'm sure you know by now, texting is a whole different ballgame.



Love,



Zabrinah