The Pedestal

There are those times when you meet a guy who seems to have it all together. He's an inspiration. There are so many wonderful things about him. However, you've put him on a pedestal. No longer can you see his bad qualities. Is that so terrible? Is this a dangerous thing to do? Let's find out.

I have put girls and guys on an unnecessary pedestal in my day. I've had role models who I've wanted to emulate. But, I've learned that putting someone on a pedestal is like giving a regular person star treatment. To tell you the truth, The Talented Guy (from this post HERE) sure is used to it. Honestly, you are being limited by other people's experiences when you do this. You should always be inspired by your friends. You should always be proud of the guy you have on your arm. However, nobody is perfect.


Pedestal Triggers

There are certain pedestal triggers that will sneak up and get you. Let's say you've always imagined that your dream man would go to Harvard. Well, when you meet someone who's somehow affiliated with that school, you're going to fall head over heels for him. Your brain has already done the daydreaming for this relationship, before you even met him. He'll be on that pedestal within a few minutes. I do believe that this is dangerous. How on earth would you be able to judge if he's actually a good person? The fact that he's a Harvard man will dominate over all of the bad. You'll be severely biased. That's not how you want to start a relationship. You cannot be a #1--not dislike him/see him as an acquaintance--and keep him on that pedestal at the same time.

Do not be consumed by anyone's good qualities alone. Make sure you're not missing the big picture. A lot of girls let their superficial side get the better of them. When a "hot" guy, is interested ... BAM! He's suddenly on a 10 foot pedestal. That's not healthy. You'll forget all of his wrongs. How far is the relationship going to go if he's hot, but he does not know how to love well?


Love,

Zabrinah