Guys Will Tell You

Has a guy ever said, "I'm not looking for a serious commitment". Has he ever said, "We shouldn't date. I'm no good for you?" Well, I want you to stop analyzing and start listening. Girls want to understand every detail and make up their own interpretation of a simple phrase. Instead of altering it to fit your own biases, just take what he says for what it is.

Here is an example of instant messaging between a girl and a guy. Let's analyze it:


GIRL: i still have feelings for you  and it's hard cuz i feel like you don't and so i wanna stay away from you  but at the same time i want to be with you ... so tell me that you don't have feelings for me so i can get over you 


GUY: get over me
 
GIRL: ok

GUY: im not someone that can treat you right 


GIRL: why not?  sorry i just need to hear all of this
 
GUY: i haven't figured myself out ... if i can't support myself yet, how could i support another


GIRL: that makes sense


GUY: you never talk to me though, how do you still have feelings for me?


GIRL: that's what i'm wondering  lol
 
GUY: haha  and im not your only option, you know this


GIRL: but to be honest i've never liked someone as much as i liked you, not to creep you out or anything


GUY: no im not creeped out....i think thats sweet


GIRL: ur cheesy  loll

 GUY: haha if you say so



Immediately after this conversation, the guy started dating another girl--who he still happens to be with right now. So tell me ... what did GIRL do wrong in this conversation???? What can we learn from it?


1. DOMINANT ENERGY. I see that I'm really going to have be rough with you girls on this one. The GIRL in the conversation told the guy that she liked him first. He didn't reciprocate or reject her. She just simply stated how he felt. I'm getting emails where things have totally gone wrong after the lady has initiated and initiated and initiated some more. You deserve someone who is HEAD OVER HEELS IN LOVE WITH YOU. You deserve the best of the best. I'm talking about a smooth-talking prince who never stops calling, texting, or asking you out. You should not be doing all of the work all of the time. You should just sit back and pick which prince you want to marry. That's hard enough. To be further convinced about dominant energy, read ME. 


2. STOP SLEEPING WITH THE ENEMY.  Sleeping with the enemy is when you insist on tell the guy vulnerable things, when he obviously doesn't feel the same way. Do you really need him to tell you all the ways that you two aren't right for each other? Every time you sleep with the enemy, you lay yourself out as prey for manipulators and douchebags that will abuse your vulnerability. To read more about sleeping with the enemy, go HERE.



3. GUYS WILL TELL YOU. I cannot stress this enough. Every time he tells you that continuing the romantic relationship or beginning one isn't a good idea, it's because he's just not that into you. He's not secretly shy if he never texts or never asks you out. Stop making excuses or alternate versions for what he says--even if they do make you feel a bit better. However, even IF he actually is afraid of commitment and that's why he wants to "take a break" or "keep things light", you've got to consider: Do you really want a guy who doesn't want to be with you right now? Do you want to be with someone who never wants to commit? Nope. You're waiting for that guy who loves you so much, he couldn't even imagine taking "a break" from the relationship.


Next time a guy says anything along the phrases quoted in this article... 


BELIEVE HIM.


 And then act accordingly. That almost always means that you back off, and move on. I recommend How To Let Go Of The Guy (click ME) or 10 Ways To Stop Missing Him (right over HERE) for help with that.  


I hope this article resonated with you. I don't want any of us to get heart-broken for those three reasons ever again!


I wish you the best, everyone.




Love,


Zabrinah