Dealing With Rejection

He finds you attractive, but he's not attracted to you. Ouch. That kind of sucks. So, he'll stare at you all the time, approach you, and seem genuinely interested, but he won't ask you out. He won't even try to get your phone number. Yes, this certainly can feel like rejection.

You put yourself out there. You asked all the questions. You did all the research ... and he still doesn't want you. How come? And how do you deal?

Step One: Redirect the recap. I want to recommend the post, Recap (click ME), which fully explains the phenomenon of reliving and recalling every single detail of an interaction between you and this guy. you must redirect the urge to recap more than one time. I know that some of us take great pleasure in going over our days, including what we said wrong or what we didn't do. I used to do this. It's not healthy. But how exactly do you redirect?

Most likely, redirection is a lot more foreign to you than recapping. You have to acknowledge the fact that you want to dwell on the past. You want to figure out why he never texted you back or suddenly started ignoring. Well, accept the fact that you may never find out why. You just won't. Accept that guys are weird. Not all of them are gonna fall head over heels for you, and if they do, not all of them will still feel that way in one month. The early stages of love are very fickle. Our minds often go back and forth.

Finally, allow your mind to think of something more productive. That is the key to redirection. You need to have a mental back-up plan. What are the things you are consistently working on? Your unfinished things you are consistently working on? Your unfinished novel? Every time you face rejection, get writing! Are your concerned with your fashion career? Instead of sitting around, staring at your phone's empty inbox, work on your fashion blog or sketching designs. Don't have any current passions? Shame on you! Pick up photography. You must redirect to something positive and immensely fruitful.

If you tap into the power of redirection, think of the wonderful things you could discover and create.


Step Two: Know that he just doesn't prefer your type of cake. This will build your confidence, similar to what we referred to in the last post. So, you like his type of romantic foundation, but he doesn't prefer what you have to offer. That's fine. But you guys must both be on equal levels in order for the relationship to work. Read Reciprocity (right HERE).


There you go. A two-step process to get over any form of rejection--whether they are unreturned text messages or that guy who won't ask you out.

I love redirection. Here's another little secret: guys tend to ask you out when you aren't expecting it, or at least, when you're not hanging on his every word. When you're not distracted by it, love can bloom out of nowhere. You'll be busy--consumed by your own goals--doors of opportunity will open, and there he'll be.


Love,


Zabrinah