"Compared To How He Used To Be"

I heard a friend say, "Yeah, he's a jerk, but he's not so bad ... especially compared to how he used to be." There we go. Right there. That's one of the lies to tell to ourselves and to one another. It's how we defend our douchebags. And sadly, it's how we convince ourselves that's it okay to stay with them.

If you ever find yourself saying, "Well, compared to how he used to be ...", stop right there! That is a trap. That is how you settle. It also indicates low self-esteem because you don't believe you deserve someone who's actually good to you.

Instead of saying that dreaded phrase, remember all the things he did and objectively evaluate whether he has changed. And consider whether he's worth your time now. You might be surprised at the answer.

Love,

Zabrinah