Assignment #1

Z-Note: Alright, my friends. Look how the times flies. March is pretty much over. And now we are one month into The 365 Challenge (click ME). 11 more to go! So far, so good with my goal to post a lot more frequently. Thankfully, I wasn't gone for a 2 week+ hiatus this month (cough, cough ... like February). However, this blog isn't just about me growing. It's about you improving, as well. 

Let's quickly recap what my challenge was to you at the end of last February:

"Over the next year, as you hang in with me (read the posts, send me email feedback, discuss your love problems), you must work on developing yourself. You must work on developing your soul. You need to access that hunger deep within you that craves for a positive change. 365 days from now, your perspective on life and guys should be thousands of miles farther down the road of self-discovery, then where you are parked right now." 

So, now we've come to your first assignment. 

I thoroughly enjoy reading your emails and acting as a soundboard for your ideas. It's a wonderful way to encourage growth. It's also a good way for me to figure out what overarching problems most of us seem to have. One prevalent thing that is present in most emails is:

WORRY

Yup. A lot of you are worrying too much, before you have to, or after something has already happened and cannot be undone. Though I fight a battle with it everyday, I have found that worrying is an unnecessary feeling. If you're going to make it through romantic relationships, FAITH is what you actually need. HOPE combined with positive thoughts is what will help you survive. Worry is what will crush you.

This doesn't mean that you should never be concerned. You must be wise. Use your common sense. Seek help when you need it. But, don't waste all your good energy on worrying because for all that time you sit around dreaming up possible scenarios, you never find a reasonable conclusion/strategy of action. It's true.

Assignment #1 is to eliminate worry. Replace it with something better. Something that gets you through the hard times. I'll be doing these assignments with you, so you can expect some of the posts this month to fully address this issue.

Good luck.

I know we're going to make it!

Love,

Zabrinah