The Guy That Buys You Stuff

Have you ever encountered a guy that was SO NICE for no apparent reason? Did he buy you stuff? Did he also buy your friends stuff and pay SO MUCH attention to all of you, that you bickered about who he actually liked? This just happened to me. Let me prepare you before he walks into your life--with his wallet ready and a smile.

I hadn't encountered The Guy That Buys You Stuff until last November, and I have learned a lot from the experience. This post is a companion to The Undercover Pimp. A lot of the identifiers are the same, with several variations.

Identifying Him


1. He's not your boyfriend. I am not referring to guys that you are dating, who give you gifts for Christmas or for your birthday. This is that guy you just met who keeps on giving nice, relevant, things one after another.

2. He's in the friend zone.  That is where it begins with this guy. You start off as friends, and then stay there for a long time--I'm talking months. You get along with his friends and he gets along with yours. You all hang out together. It's a "friend thing" all around.

3. His facebook page is COMPLETELY FLOODED with cutesy messages from girls (and guys alike). This identifier is taken verbatim from The Undercover Pimp. Read that post HERE: Everyone's always wondering what he's up to. Or they're just writing his name in all caps with fourty-six exclamation points. No big deal. He's popular, right? But here's the kicker: when you look at the wall-to-wall history with some of his adoring fans, you find that he worked pretty darn hard for each and every single interaction. In real life and on facebook. He's the first to start a conversation and the last person to leave a comment. He's on every girl/guy's wall. Seriously. Why so much effort? Why is he doing that?

4. He's basically the guy who flirts with everybody (read me), but a seemingly, overall good person. He's so nice! Which is CONFUSING. Why flirt with EVERYONE? What's the benefit of that?

5. He has hints of immaturity (click me), but it's tolerable. He's like a little boy in some ways: longing for affection and really hyper. He and his guy friends can go slighty crazy, but it's nothing you haven't seen before. And you've definitely seen worse.

6. He's a showoff. Adding to the immaturity, he's the guy that brings the essence of: "Look! Look! Look at my iphone! I can use photoshop! I can dance circles around all the other guys. I have five computers. Yours broke down? Why don't you borrow mine?"

7. He makes you happy, but you continue to find yourself concerned with his motives. In the back of your mind, you keep on wondering, "What's he doing all of this for?" When someone buys you things, of course you're happy. Obviously. Yay! Free stuff! But, you always find yourself thinking, "What's the catch?" 

8. He is arrogant. Think about it. It does take a grand bit of arrogance to give people you barely know, any materialistic thing they mildly refer to. If he doesn't get what he ultimately wants (whatever that may be in the long run), fully expect him to send you an angry message on facebook and then block you. He's definitely the type of guy to do THIS.

9. He doesn't keep friends for very long. And he knows it! He very well may warn you of this fact. A guy who buys you stuff for no reason is always after something. It's hard for him to make real friends when he is flashing his money and "thoughtful gifts" around. Why? Because he is essentially buying friendship, and though you may not see it that way, he (the person spending all the money) certainly does. 

10. He brings a WHOLE LOT OF DRAMA to your life. Quite literally, he may be in the arts field. Speaking in broader terms, he causes a disruption amongst you and your friends. You are always talking about him or hanging out with him. If he is buying gifts for you all, which most of the guys who fall into this type do, then you are consistently wondering, "Who does he really like?"

11. The underlying feeling that something is up. I can't explain it any better. You just feel it. Follow those gut instincts. 

12. Your  friends who aren't getting stuff from him, won't like him. You might make up excuses for this, chocking it up to them being jealous. However, that is not the case. It usually means that he has nothing positive to offer other than his gifts. Your friends who don't really know him will not like him because they will be able to see objectively. Perhaps, they'll even see what his final motive is. 

Why Is He Doing This?

For the many of the same reasons as The Undercover Pimp, this type of guy may be buying you things because:

1. He wants to be popular. 

2. He wants to be liked by females everywhere. Quite literally, he is buying friendship. He is buying affection. He is purchasing your first impression of him. He wants you to say: "Oh, he bought me something! He is SO NICE." 

3. He is into you (or one of your friends that he is buying stuff for, as well), but probably for the wrong reasons (see #4 below).

4. He wants to get some. 

After my last encounter, I feel like #3 is the primary reason. If this guy is being nice to all of your friends, it is typically that the guy who buys you stuff (for no apparent reason) is into one of them. If she does not feel the same way, he will stop being nice to you all. 

I will write a Part Two to this post when I see this guy again, in order to provide you a follow-up on his actions, and a more proper, well-rounded conclusion to this type of guy. Stay posted!

Love,

Zabrinah