Cambridge Lyrics

This post's song lyrics come from another up-and-coming Youtube star, Kinna Grannis. Her lyrics are so real, and so telling. Look her up. As we delve into a new year, there may be certain things and certain people that we have to let go. Kinna's song, Cambridge explains the thoughts leading up to that process.

"Just give it to me quick.

Are you coming home?

Don't dance around it."

Tip #1: When confronting someone, get straight to the point. You have to be confident during these "confrontations" (those moments when you respectfully speak your mind), even when you are afraid of the answer. If you are being straightforward, hopefully, he will be too.

"I need to hear this.

I chose you long ago.

Have you chosen me yet?"

Tip #2: No relationship can survive without reciprocity. Read about it HERE. If there is no reciprocity, then you might as well have an unrequited love on your hands. It is good to have a little dialogue with yourself, questioning whether he feels the same way, whether he is putting in an equal amount of effort into the relationship.

"I'm starting to wear thin and find it harder to forgive.

Every time you let us slip down your list of priorities."

Tip #3: At the beginning of a relationship, you should talk about your priorities, and where the other person ranks on that list. You must do this in order to see if you are both on the same page. You must have clear expectations. No "let's just see where this leads us". If one of you isn't honest about his or her intentions, then the relationship is just heading for doom. You don't want to reach the point where you are wearing thin and forced to forgive over and over again. Avoid that dangerous cycle with honest communication.

"I'm waiting for you to say you're here to stay.

But darling, if you know that it's through.

You can't keep doing what you do.

If it's time to let go of you."

Tip #4: You don't need his permission to let go of him. I talked about this in depth in The Pruning Tree, your guide to letting people go (click ME).

"Now please don't take this wrong.

You know I want you.

But don't think I won't move on."

Tip #5: Don't second-guess yourself, especially while you are talking to him. In order to make the decision, take a moment and objectively look at the relationship. If it has no hope (meaning that he won't/can't change or you are no longer a priority), you have to make up your mind to leave and move on. This is an independent process. I once heard that you should take a timer and allow yourself one minute for self doubt. You only get 60 seconds to fear, and whimper, and give into all the reasons preventing you from making a good decision. After that, you have to move forward.

"I can get by on my own.

I'll stand without you.

Look how I have grown."

Tip #6: Have confidence whether a guy is on your arm or not. Discover this self-assured attitude before you get into any serious relationships. Once you do this, it will dilute the fear of moving on from something that simply isn't working. That way, when you have to let go of someone, you will always be confident because you can stand tall on your own.

"You once whispered words to me.

Wondering if anybody loved each other like we do.

I guess that's not enough for you.

Tell me or I'm going to let you go.

If it's time to let go of you."

Tip #7: Holding on to old memories doesn't make the present any better. Recapping doesn't help you move on. Clinging to the past won't stop him from neglecting, rejecting, and ditching you. However, if you must think about the "good old days", finish your thoughts with reaffirmation of what is going on now. The lyrics above do just that.

Tip #8: Ultimatums aren't always the way to go. Sometimes it's best to just leave. Ultimatums remind me of asking for his input on whether you should move on. Think about it. If you break up with him--no if, ands, or buts--and he's indifferent, then you saved yourself a whole lot of trouble. If you leave, and it turns his world upside down (and then he acts on that destroyed feeling by finding the motivation to change), then you have a whole other situation on your hands. No matter what, both scenarios are better than an ultimatum, which can end up feeling like a rejection if he tells you to go, or a disaster by forcing him to change.


Hope you enjoyed this one!



Love,



Zabrinah