"He's Trying To Make Me Jealous"

If you have ever had a relationship in your head (click ME), then you understand what it's like to jump to conclusions. And subsequently, jump to conclusions based on those conclusions. One of these assumptions comes disguised in the well-used statement, "He's trying to make me jealous."

The guys I used to think were making me jealous were fellows who barely knew me. We were barely acquaintances, but daydreaming can bring you to the point where you believe the relationship is real. The point where you see him with other girls and assume:

A. He's trying to make you jealous,

or...

B. He's cheating on you.


But now, I have learned that it is ridiculous to do this and a complete waste of time. If you follow the Pact (located HERE) and wait for a guy to like you before you like him, you would never be disappointed when you see him holding hands with someone else. If the Pact isn't for you, at least, follow The Survival Guide To Attraction (click ME). Wait until you are both attracted to each other before assuming he's trying to make you jealous.



If He REALLY is ....


Warning: only .001% of guys try to do this, and it is never a good sign. 

If a guy really is trying to make you jealous, what does that say about him? People only try to make other people jealous when they have feelings for them. You don't want a guy who cannot tell you how he feels in a straightforward manner.


You cannot put up with a guy like this because he is insecure. If he's really trying to make you jealous, maybe this is the only way he believes he can get his feelings across. It is childish, NOT "cute". A guy that does this is nothing to brag about.



Don't Ignore It


When a guy is talking to you and brings up his girlfriend every forty-five seconds, don't ignore it. Listen to what he has to say and then evaluate him as a normal human being. Hopefully, you began the conversation in neutral; you did not dislike him as a person. However, someone that is always talking about their significant other is quite annoying because it can only mean one of two things: either they are insecure or obsessed. Actually, many people are both, and they are not fun to be around.


When the single guy you are attracted to at work goes around hugging EVERY girl in the office, don't get jealous. Do not assume he is doing it because he likes you. Each time I see this scenario play out, I simply allow the guy to give me reason to believe that he is a guy who flirts with everybody or an Undercover Pimp (click ME and ME). Acknowledge those facts and adapt accordingly. There is no reason to get jealous.



The Take-Home Message


In most cases--99.99% of them--the guy you suspect is flaunting his girlfriend in your face, is not trying to make you jealous. And if he is, so what? Do not let it get to when people are insecure about their relationships, and have to make sure the whole world has to know they love each other, every moment of the day.



Love,



Zabrinah


Next Up: Why You Can't Move On: Part 2