“You Attract Exactly What You Need”

I never imagined I’d be quoting Amanda Bynes here, but my best friend and I have been trying to interpret this quote for at least a week now. Ms. Bynes tweeted “you attract exactly what you need”. Don’t judge me for reading celebrity tweets! This one seems profound when placed into perspective, but what does it mean?

I think this plays right into reciprocity: a positive action calls for another positive action, a negative for another negative. What you need from life is so different from what you want from life. The same applies more specifically to relationships. We all need love. Ever since birth, we’ve needed it, craved it, and sought after it.



But what is love to you? We should love who we are—ourselves—the best we possibly can, and let that be the model for how we love others. Many of us do this the other way around. I have. I’ve observed how others loved me, and then directed their actions and words towards myself. But because we are human beings, someone can fall out of love with you. And then what do you do? If his love was your model of a perfect love and it ended, do you stop caring about yourself? What if he’s still in love with you, but his version of love is calling you fat or slutty? Or telling you that you’re not good enough or worthy of his love? Your self-esteem is in jeopardy.



Back to the quote: you attract exactly what you need. You need love. But if you identify love as someone shouting at you, putting you down, or not being there when you need him/her, then you might be seeking and subsequently attracting the wrong type of person. If you treat yourself badly, you might be attracting others who will also treat you badly. If you don’t believe you deserve someone really great, why would you attract someone who believes otherwise? Whatever you honestly think you need, you will receive.



Let’s focus on the positive. If you’re consistently working towards a higher self-esteem (as we all should), you’ll be searching for ways to improve yourself. You’ll take care of your body inside and out. You’ll try and figure out how to make the best out of every year, and make the most out of each day. By taking care of yourself, you’ll attract different types of people because you’ll need more/better than what you’ve had in the past.



“You attract exactly what you need.” What does this quote mean to you?



Love,



Zabrinah





***
If you enjoyed this post, please share it (twitter, facebook, digg ... there are many options!!), become a follower (bloglovin' or Google Friend Connect), and subscribe by RSS or email. I really appreciate the support!