Indestructible

Have you ever broken a bone? Doctors say that when it happens, the healing process begins right away. It breaks, and though you’re in severe pain, your body is already knitting itself back together. You place the broken bone in a cast—stopping someone, even yourself, from interfering as your body repairs. Once the bone is completely healed, it will be larger in diameter. That specific area won’t be as vulernable as it was pre-fracture. And it certainly won’t be as easy to break again. You’ll look the same on the outside, but you’re stronger than you’ve ever been before. There’s a little piece of you that’s indestructible.

We make mistakes in relationships all the time. You fall in love too quickly, and suddenly, someone’s breaking your heart. You hear the sickening snap. And you know that a part of you will never be the same again. But, we also forget that this heartbreak has the ability to make us stronger. If we only allow the time for it to heal. We can learn from our failures, besides being disappointed by them.



Often times, this journey of not falling in love under undesirable circumstances brings us three steps forwards, and then, two steps backwards. We look back at our progress in self-deprecating frustration, finding that we’ve only taken one step. But that step represents strength. It represents accrued wisdom through experience. Every failure is another indestructible point that we can add to our repertoire.



I’ll show you what I mean.



The Break:

You fell for a jerk. You had suspected he would hurt you, but you went for it anyway. Surely enough, the pressure of the relationship proved to be too much strain and he broke your heart. He caused you a great deal of emotional pain. You snapped. And now, you feel like you’ll never recover.

The Healing Process:

Amidst the suffering, the healing process has already begun. You just have to believe that the rupture is mending. Soon, your body will respond, though the pain might not automatically subside. You’ll delete his number from your cell phone. You’ll throw away the few keepsakes he gave you. You’ll talk about him less when you’re out with friends. And finally, your mind will readjust to a single mindset. You’ll recall what it’s like to go to the mall by yourself and enjoy it. You’ll remember what it’s like to have a great day without him.

The Cast:

Because you endured a tremendous break and still survived, you’re going to put a guard up to protect your heart from further damage in this fragile state. Some people call it a social wall that exists to keep people away at arm’s length, while the wound is still sore. Having your guard up to 95% means not rebounding to another guy while the breakup is still fresh. It means there’s no obligation to share the news with friends and family until you’re good and ready. And most importantly, it means protecting your heart from the one who broke it.

The Indestructible:

Lower your guard from 95% to 60% in order to take a peek at your progress. You’ll see that there’s a facet of your heart that’s less vulnerable than all the other aspects. You’re no longer prone to jerks. You don’t cling to guys who abuse you. You fell, you broke, you healed, you protected—and now, you’re better for it.

The process is always worth it in the end. No matter the pain you suffered. No regrets. You're stronger now.

Happy healing.



Love,

Zabrinah



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