This post was inspired and requested by Sofie Marie. You can see her blog here.
A lot of movies and T.V. shows incorporate love triangles, which make for an awesome drama onscreen, but an awful situation in real life. By the end of the show, one person is kicked to the curb. He/she feels undesirable and loved. The show sets it up so that you, as a viewer, hardly feel sorry for this person. You weren’t rooting for the third wheel. You didn’t want the protagonist to end up with this individual anyway.
But, remember for a moment what it’s like—suffering from unrequited love. When you’re the one that no one daydreams about, when you don’t get the guy in real life, it’s not that cute. Here are 4 reasons why:
1. You embarrass yourself around him because you have feelings he cannot return.
2. You adapt to stalker-ish behavior when he’s around or even when he’s not (checking on his profile page a little too much. Ahem. Yes, we’re all guilty of this one).
3. You spend/waste your time plotting ways to make him fall in love with you.
4. You have to watch him fall in love with someone else.
Unrequited love is not that cute. No one ever goes, “Aw… you’re stalking him?!? How adorable!” And I know you don’t feel cute watching him ask someone else out. If you’re going to spend the day, consistently thinking and daydreaming about someone (which I don’t recommend, because it’s borderline unhealthy), then at least spend that energy on a guy who likes you back.
He just said he doesn’t feel the same way. How do I come back from this?
When you’re trying to rebound after a rejection from the guy of your dreams, make yourself busy. Propel yourself to work more efficiently than ever before. If the thought of him pops up in your mind, redirect your focus to a more productive task.
Most importantly, don’t forget the Pact. It could save you a lot of trouble.
Good luck.
Love,
Zabrinah
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Very good points made. I've been there before and it sucks.
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This ringed a bell with me LOL it reminded me of things that I already knew, but decided to forget because my pride was wounded & I was angry.
ReplyDeleteThank you a lot! :) you're a lifesaver.
Brings back memories of high school. :(
ReplyDeleteI used to do this kinf of things in junior high school and it feels awful thnaks for bring us some good point of views I thik every body always love movies but never think in the real life
ReplyDeleteYou're definitely right...unrequited love is far from cute.
ReplyDeleteI think your blog should be a course in college. Or high school, if we want to make them smarter while they're young. :)
ReplyDeleteI don't just learn about love, I also learn new English words. I had to look up the word unrequited....I had a feeling I knew what it meant, but had to be sure.
ReplyDeleteThank you Zabrinah! :)
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haha, the infamous unrequited love..yes, it make for a good plot in a movie or book but it certainly hurts like hell in real life. been there, done that.hehe. and it was indeed foolish...
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Unrequited love is the worst, great post as always darling, LOVE it!!! xoxo
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ReplyDeleteThanks for this,so kind! Plus thanks for the link back too.
ReplyDeleteQuite an intresting read....I'm not sure if it entirely answered my issues,but it's okay ^.^
Sofie
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Thanks for the comment. I love the name of your blog. I also believe that it's true about a love triangle. It looks cool on tv, but when put to the test we can't really handle it when we are faced with it in real life.
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True true true! You really need to write your own column in a magazine or newspaper.
ReplyDeleteI don't know anything about love triangles, but I do know that I have lots of friend triangles, and lately I feel like the third wheel. Awesome post.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment that you left me, I'm so so sorry for such a late reply! I totally grinned sheepishly at number 2 heheh. This is such a good idea for a blog, and I'm looking forward to reading your future posts! *Hops on falling-in-love-free bandwagon*
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Thanks for visiting my blog. Wow, such an interesting concept for yours! Yeah I've been in the unrequited love situation and wasted two years on the guy who later came out of the closet...!!
ReplyDeleteStory of my life. The problem is, he isn't persuing anyone else right now, and he has never told me he doesn't like me even when ive said it's fine if so. I wish guys didn't beat around the bush. I have emotions but I can handle a rejection better than not knowing now.
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