11 Ways To Gain Respect From Guys

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Does he value your opinions? Or does he brush off whatever you have to say? Do your friends believe you're being mistreated? Bottom line: Do you feel like he respects you? When the person you like doesn’t seem to respect you, it tends to mess with your self-esteem. We’ve all been there.

Here are 11 ways to gain respect. The ones in purple are my personal favorites:


1. Accept who he is. Don’t try to change him. He has to make the decision all by himself.

2. Stop letting him get away with treating you like crap. You don’t need ultimatums to get him to respect you or start returning your phone calls. When he apologizes, forgive him and move on. If he refuses to change and you've had enough, simply tell him something along the lines of: “I really care about you. I accept and respect who you are, but this relationship isn’t working for me. I’m not getting what I need from it. But that’s okay, because you need to be who you are … I understand that I can’t change you, but I need to stay true to who I am, as well.” Now isn’t that a twist on the whole “It’s not you, it’s me” speech?!

3. Don’t bring up his past failures. Especially, if you’ve decided to forgive him. We’ve all made mistakes. Forgiving doesn’t necessarily mean forgetting, but I believe that once you forgive someone, you make a conscious decision not to keep throwing his faults in his face. Example: “You’re going out with your friends tonight???? Well, be sure not to cheat on me like you did three years ago!”

4. Exhibit patience.

5. Participate in some form of stress relief. This will help you have patience. Meditation, yoga, or even getting more hours of sleep will allow you to stay true to yourself in social situations. You’ll be at ease when you’re talking to him. Your responses will be genuine and uniquely you!

6. Be humble. Self-important people have a harder time gaining respect. Modest people are admirable souls. You want to emulate them. They draw you in. You find ways to be near them. Become one of them.

7. Bring out your calm, assertive side. Be able to tell someone “No” without taking it back (this one’s really hard for some people—including myself!).

8. Display how you truly feel when he’s around. His jokes aren’t funny? Don’t laugh. His flirting technique is borderline offensive? Don’t flirt back.

9. Have your own goals and activities that have nothing to do with him. Work everyday towards achieving them.

10. Believe in yourself. Walk with confidence. People, especially guys, treat you differently when you seem comfortable with yourself. Don’t shrink back when you have something to say. Continually boost your self-esteem, everyday.

11. Treat him with respect. Reciprocity. Give and take. You deserve respect? Then, so does he. No matter what.



Remember that you can’t force anyone to do anything. If he and his friends don’t want to respect you, that’s their problem. But these steps will act as eye-openers for a lot of the people around you.



My best friend always tells me, there are sources and there are sinks.

The source-sink dynamic is a theoretical model that shows the qualities of two different habitats. A source is of a higher quality, always being able to support an increasing population. A sink is very low in quality, completely dependent, and on its own, it cannot support anything.



Taking heed of the 11 steps and implementing them in your life could transform you into a Super Source. All sorts of people will be attracted to you and what you have to offer. And you'll be able to support and inspire all of them. You’ll be a shining light that never fades because your confidence, your charisma, and your high self-esteem all come from a place of self-reliance. Your happiness—that inner light—does not depend on whether he said “Hi” to you today. Your source comes from within.



Love,



Zabrinah


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