They Say He's Not The One

It’s time to talk about people because you can be assured that they’re talking about you. People can be annoying, nosy, and intrusive in your love life, but you need to be able to recognize when they may be telling the truth—when they should be listened to. Click here to find out when people should be ignored.

What do you do when relatives and friends hate the guy you like? If these people really care for you and usually have great advice/input, I suggest you:



1. Listen to what they say. Don’t try to block it out. Don’t ignore it. Don’t argue.

2. Give them your point of view. Let them know exactly why you like him.

3. Seriously consider if they’re right. Be objective. They might see something you can’t.



When many people come at you from all different areas of your life, saying, “I don’t know what you see in him,” or “You deserve better than that”, maybe you should listen. However, I understand that it’s hard to listen when he makes you so happy. His touch makes you melt. And though it’s annoying, the attention you get from people can be enjoyable. You like being paired with him in a romantic way.



Why should I listen to them?

Your friends might be right. He might be a jerk. You shouldn’t keep having to say, “Yeah he’s controlling, but he knows me,” or “You don’t know him like I do.” There comes a time when that excuse doesn't hold up anymore. Him knowing you just isn't good enough. A lot of people you'll meet in this lifetime will get the chance to "know you". Allow their observations to let you monitor all the bad you have overlooked. He may seem really great, but if your mom, sister, aunt, and best friend all believe that he’s manipulative, rude, and a danger to your life, then they can save you from an awful relationship. People can save you a lot of heartbreak. They can save you from saying, “I should have listened before.”



Don’t block someone out who has your best interest at heart. You are not all-knowing and neither are they. In the end, it’s up to you. Once you’ve listened to what they have to say, you’re the one who decides to stay with him or not, to like him or not. Use good judgment. Do what’s best for you. Figure out if it’s time to fall out of love.



Love,


Zabrinah



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