In Your Dreams

So, you’ve conquered the obnoxious daydream. You don’t envision the two of you walking on the beach, holding hands. You don’t picture him showing up on your doorstep with a bouquet of flowers. And you definitely don’t see him waiting for you at the end of the aisle. You’ve overcome the daydream. Victory is yours! But there’s still a problem. Your subconscious mind disagrees with the conscious, and when you go to sleep, there he is. The guy you don’t want to fall in love with is the star of your dreams.

Because your subconscious brought it up, your conscious mind is forced to think about him when you wake up. You’re tempted to talk about him. And journal about him. And call him just to hear his voice. And daydream about him. Should you?



Some people say that dreams are extremely important. They put the subjects of their dreams into Google, desperately trying to figure out what they mean. But if you’re dreaming about the guy you don’t want to fall in love with, I think it’s obvious what your dream means.



Not only is there a battle going on between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind, there is also a battle between your brain and your heart—common sense and gratuitous infatuation. Don’t give your dreams too much significance. If you’re dreaming about him, acknowledge it as just another way to get him out of your system. He has to go through all the intricate levels of your mind before you can successfully get over him.



Thinking about him right before you go to sleep might make him appear in your dreams or nightmares. If you don’t want to obsess over him anymore, you should stop recapping all of your daily interactions with him before you go to bed. Your thought should never be like this:



“When he handed that book to me, our fingers touched. That was a fun moment. He has the best skin in the world. What did it mean when he said, “I’ll see you, later?” Later when? Does he want to ask me out? Is he too shy to do it? Maybe I should talk to one of his friends to see if he ever asks about me...”



Don’t do this. Please. He didn’t mean anything. He probably doesn’t even remember the instance you’re recapping. Thinking like this will only get you in trouble. Sometimes, you need to pay greater attention to common sense, rational thoughts, especially if you KNOW he can’t be the right guy for you.



Love,


Zabrinah