Lying

There are countless ways to lie when you’re trying not to fall for someone. The most common instances stem from denial. Denial can make you feel better when you are able to say to your friends, “Nope. I don’t like anybody right now.” This might be okay in the present, but you don’t want to face the long-term consequences. Try envisioning denial as a roadblock on your journey to success, freedom from a binding crush that’s misplaced or even inappropriate.

In an earlier post entitled, A Baby Crush, you were encouraged to admit to yourself when you’re falling for someone. This is always better than denial. Denial is one of your worst enemies. Denial is best friends with Anticipation.

When you’re talking to people, it’s all too easy to lie to them (see earlier post entitled, People if you need more help dealing with nosy … people). Here’s the typical question:

“What’s going on with you and him?”



Various possible answers that aren’t lies:



a. We’re like brother and sister.

b. I hardly know him.

c. What do you mean?



Firstly, you need to be truthful with yourself. Keep a journal (or a blog!!) where you document how you feel about him. Keep those entries simple and straight to the point. Don’t over-indulge; share just enough to help you admit what you need to admit, and successfully move on.



Secondly, be truthful with your closest friends. Don’t go sharing your journal or anything. You can get away with:

a. I shouldn’t like him.

b. I don’t want to like him.

c. We would never last.

d. He’s so not right for me.



Stay away from denial. The truth shall set you free!



Love,


Zabrinah