Look At That Profile Picture

It’s so easy to find someone who’s a part of your reality on the internet. Especially, when you like him. I realized this when I deactivated my facebook account approximately five months ago. The account was gone, and yet I was still able to stalk people! If their names were unique enough, I would be able to place them into Google and find their facebook page. Of course it would be a severely limited facebook page that would prompt me to sign in, but I was allowed to see their profile picture and their friends’ profile pictures. I could jump from page to page. After a period of time of Googling him, I got to see a series of different profile pictures, and subsequently what he was up to.

I shared my experience, not so you could go ahead and try it, but in order for you to realize how downright creepy online stalking is. We’ve definitely been desensitized to it. Sometimes, all you want is a photo, a memento. You just want to see how he’s doing. That’s all great, but explain why he isn’t calling you, writing you, or talking to you in person? Because it isn’t meant to be. He doesn’t like you like that and neither should you.

What’s so bad about stalking? I pretty much stalk everyone!

Stalking an unrequited or potentially damaging love is not healthy. It’s harmful. Do you really need to see how your ex and his new girlfriend are doing? This is harmful to you. I’m not telling you to stop stalking your friends and family members. That’s actually quite fun. But, guard your heart and keep your curiosity at bay. If you do that, you’ll save yourself a whole lot of trouble and embarrassment.

He’s no longer in my life and I miss him!

I can so relate. Still, we’re aiming to be healthy here. There are so many wonderful things you could do with your time, rather than stalk his page. You deserve to be with someone who loves you back. You deserve to have someone in your life that you don’t have to stalk because he’s always around.
This gets easier. Once you get rid of your attachment to stalking, it comes up in your mind less and less. But, it is a process. So, good luck.


Love,
Zabrinah