a. Look at him and nod.
b. Turn your head in the opposite direction.
c. Stare at him out of the corner of your eye.
There probably is no correct answer to that scenario. It’s kind of sad that you noticed him coming near you and got all flustered by it in the first place. The fact that you’re not sure what to do when he walks by proves that you're over-analyzing yourself. You’re reading into you own actions more than you need to. But, until you reach a Level 1 for him (on the scale of affection defined in an earlier post: LOVE Him. HATE Him.), you need to know the pros and cons of these options. Option c is less healthy than the first two.
Why?
Well, you should never keep track of anyone out of the corner of your eye, unless they’re the kids you’re babysitting … or your own children. Then, you should definitely keep an eye on them. However, the guy that would break your heart if you ever gave him a chance, the guy that you’re positive would cheat on you the moment you started dating—you shouldn’t keep an eye on him. There’s no legitimate reason to be aware of his every location in the room.
Option b may be healthier than c, but I don’t think it’s the right answer. Turning your head in the opposite direction—with no other motive for doing so—means you’re trying too hard not to like him. When you try to hard, you tend to like him more. The heart yearns for what the mind rejects.
Option a is the best out of the three. You don’t dislike him as a person. He’s just not the right guy for you and you want to keep your heart safe. There’s nothing wrong with that. But, if you two don’t have the kind of friendship where you acknowledge the other person’s presence, than I wouldn’t regard him at all. You must aim for the day that you don’t even notice that he’s walking by. The day you tend to forget that he’s in the room. When you don’t count how many inches his arm is away from your arm. The day you don’t have to fake nonchalance will be the healthiest of them all.
Love,
Zabrinah
Yay, I guessed the right answer! I imagine that faking nonchalance would help to develop actual nonchalance. Great post as always!
ReplyDeleteGreat Post! I know I always creep on the guys that I used to like, but there's no need. I'm gonna try to apply this one to my life.
ReplyDelete"The heart yearns for what the mind rejects. " So true.
ReplyDeleteI love your blog im following I can def. learn something from this.
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Just wanted to say I've read through this entire blog. My story is long and very complicated, but I just wanted to say this was so well written, it reached out to me, seemed to pat me on the shoulder, tell me to wake up. I think if you even have to google "how to fall out of love" you deep down know you better do it for your own health!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for writing this, it's made me feel a heck if a lot better and given me some good focus.