Preventive Measures
This scenario happens over and over and over again:
All your friends say he's cute. Girls you don't even know think he's the best looking guy around (at school, at work, on campus, wherever...). But, you don't agree. He is so not your type. You even tell them that you disagree. However, six months or so later, you fall for him, quickly and dramatically. You fell for all the things your friends pointed out and more. This could have and should have happened right away while everyone else was obsessed, but it didn't.
My question is, what happened here????
I believe that this reoccurring scenario has got to be the result of our subconsious and conscious mind at work. We hear them say how attractive he is, how desirable he is, and pretty soon, we believe it. By the time we get know him and interact with him, we're smitten too.
Idealistically, many of us look for a man that is popular with other women, whether we know it or not. In a way, it's sick and sad that we want someone just because he is highly desired. We crave for a man that acheives social acceptance and popularity. This isn't altogether wrong, but remember, you didn't like him in the first place!
Try not to forget that you are susceptible to instances like these. The next time you say, "He is not attractive", "He's not my type," or "He looks like a player", MEAN IT. Remember it. Analyze why you initially thought so.
Our first impressions mean something! We have them for a reason. How many times have you looked at a guy and (completely and unfairly judged him) only to later find out you were right? Almost always, those gut feelings are absolutely correct. When your friends are discussing a potential boyfriend for you and you immediately disagree, give some weight to your statements. Often times, we know what's best for us relationship-wise, but we don't listen to ourselves.
Love,
Zabrinah
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