Getting Jealous?

Are you a jealous person? I wouldn’t classify myself as one. And yet, there are times when you see him with someone else and your mind goes absolutely crazy. Even if he’s the person you know you should never be with.

Jealousy comes from the anticipation of losing something. Anticipation can be an awful thing. Especially if you’re trying not to fall in love.








You can’t lose something you don’t have. Harsh, but true. Let’s say he’s an acquaintance and you’re trying your best not to fall for him. You leave work and he’s hugging some girl right outside the building. He sees you. And you feel the jealousy churn in your stomach. The pangs at your heart. It hurts. And it’s almost impossible to cover up once it’s there.

Never try to make him jealous as a tactic of revenge.

Here are some steps to take instead:



1. You must remember that you have no justifiable claim over this person. He can do what he wants, when he wants.



2. Treat him with respect. You don’t dislike him just because of this. You need to be a Level 1 on the meter (see later post entitled, LOVE Him. HATE Him).



3. Also treat “that girl” with respect. She didn’t do anything wrong. You’re the one who decided he isn’t good for you. She’s not required to feel the same way for herself. She is in no way a threat to you. And don’t compare yourself to her. It will only lead you down a dangerous road.



In my life, I tend not to get jealous when other people receive opportunities or achievements before me or instead of me. This is only because I’m positive that I have a hope, a future, and a destiny that is specific to my life.



4. Accept who you are. You are infinitely special. No one else can provide what you can. Instead of anticipating, actively wait for your extraordinary self to be called on.



I think another good solution to jealousy is The Sibling Rule (also identified in an earlier post) if the guy is more than an acquaintance—your good friend, for example. Remembering that he is your brother might allow the jealousy to effectively fade away.

Love,

Zabrinah