Daydream

Some people obsess over death. Others obsess over their pets. Or their career. Their looks. Their status. Their family. Their blog.

Still, among all the obsessions that life provides, a lot of us happen to find the time to daydream about relationships that don’t exist. Your mind simply drifts away when you’re bored.

You daydream.


About what?

1. How he’ll ask you out.

2. What your ideal date will be like.

3. The two of you on vacation together.

4. Telling your friends you’re in a committed relationship with him.

5. How he’ll propose.

6. Your wedding day.


Depending on how imaginative you are, your daydreams can get pretty carried away. You might consider what your children will look like. Whether they’ll inherit his name or not.


Speaking of names…

The simplest and most common form of daydream that a lot of us get caught up in, is taking his name. We do that all the time. We place his last name after ours and decide if it sounds ugly or not. Some of us conjoin the two names to see if it sounds better hyphenated.

We force this on our friends (sometimes jokingly). We place the names together and say, “Oh, that’s so cute!” or “Mr. and Mrs. ____. I like that!” I don’t think we realize how seriously our friends take it. They probably don’t realize it either. But when someone presents you with a new last name, don’t you consider it? Even for a moment. You form an opinion. You write your new name down, just to see what it looks like on paper. No matter how old you get, you can still fall prone to the “fantasy name game” when you least expect it.

I like daydreaming!

So do I. They’re quite fun, aren’t they?

Why is that?

A part of being human is needing something to obsess over—in our free time. We are more than able to multitask. We can daydream and complete an exam. We can be thinking about a guy and still have a successful day at work. We can daydream and remain completely functional. If the task at hand isn’t intriguing enough, our minds will give us something to be interested in.

Should I stop?

If it hinders you or your life in any way: Yes.

If it’s about the married man who lives next door: Yes.

If it’s fun and fleeting and harmless: Not unless you want to.

With daydreaming, you want to be sure that you have command over your mind. These flights of the imagination should not show up and rule your day. And they definitely shouldn’t star the guy you’re trying not to fall in love with.

Love,

Zabrinah