Please don’t get carried away. This is a very common mistake known as:
Reading too much into things.
We’re all guilty of this. We magnify and delude the actions that all human beings partake in whenever he does them. Somehow, ordinary deeds seem to take special meaning when he does them.
What actions are you talking about?
Everyone on the planet gives eye contact at some point or another. That’s human nature. However, you find that there is a special way he looks at you. Furthermore, you scrutinize, analyze, and examine this to bits.
Your thought process is a bit like this:
a. He blinks an average of four times before he looks at me. He likes me.
b. His gaze is extra fiery when he looks at me. He likes me.
c. He looks down when he talks to me. He likes me.
d. He stares me straight in the eyes when he talks to me. He likes me.
e. He looks away when I look first. He likes me.
f. There are fireworks when he looks at me. It’s destiny.
It’s irrational to give eye contact any value when you’re trying not to fall in love.
g. He’s always brushing up against me. I read somewhere that it’s a sign he likes me!
No.
Firstly, he probably didn’t notice. Recall the last time you brushed up against one of your platonic friends or someone of little importance. It’s hard to remember.
Secondly, you were in his way.
Thirdly, this is not a good “sign” to keep in the back of your mind. It makes you over-analyze everything and potentially ruin a relationship.
h. His shoulders face me when he’s talking to me. He talks to me forever about anything! I have proven signs that this guy likes me!
No. I’m sorry. These signs could be scientifically proven, but you can’t depend on a few scattered signs to guide your life. They are the sad symptoms of over-analyzing. They’re binding. It’s time to be free.
But we’re meant to be! Perfection!
He’s not perfect. You are captivated by his great qualities. They consume you, until that’s all you see. Try focusing on some of the bad (they’re there, I promise!) until you can move on with your life.
Love,
~Zabrinah
I like this article. I can remember many years ago when I had a best friend who thought that a man in church was sending her love messages through his eyes. She also took his acts of kindess such as welcoming her to church as signs of love. Unfortunately, she was so disapointed when one Sunday morning he introduced his wife, who was away in another country, to the congregation. That was her last day in church in more than 30 years. I tried to tell her that the man did not tell her he loved her or that he wanted a relationship with her but she was convinced that she saw the making of a relationship in his eyes. I hope your blog will help to prevent a repeat of this incidence by others.
ReplyDeleteBut he gets all shy and tongue-tied when he's around me! It's so cute how nervous he is when I'm around. If that's not love, what is?
ReplyDeleteJust kidding. Again, great information. I love your blog.
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ReplyDeleteLOL, you are so right in the post. Stopping by from Ladies!
ReplyDeleteOK. Now I'm married with children and, hopefully, will never have to worry about falling in love with someone new. However, I think all this applies to a healthy relationship also. I mean, sometimes he may come home and be all quiet and I may just start thinking I made him mad about something, or he's tired of our life, or bored with.... stop!!! It's just that he's quiet. Let him be and he'll snap out of it. Learned this during our first years living together and it's much smoother sailing these days (8 years later)
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