5 Signs Of An Over-Analyzer Who Takes The Most Trivial Things To Heart

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Have you ever gotten mad at somebody for not responding to your wall post? I mean, actually mad. You even told a friend about it. You ranted about it. You held a grudge over it. You vowed to never write on this person’s wall ever again. If this non-responsive, irresponsible person is somebody you like, you might be scaring him away before you even have the chance to fall in love.

You don’t want to start a relationship by reading too much into things. There’s a healthy medium between over-analyzing his actions and missing out on the signs that he’s a jerk/cheater/player. But if you can relate to any of the following, you’re probably overanalyzing:



1. You follow his gaze, just to keep track of where he’s looking or who he’s looking at.

2. You saw photos of him online, posing with some very attractive individuals and got jealous.

3. In a conversation with him, each of his silences meant you said something wrong, awkward, or inappropriate.

4. You recap your interactions with him for your friends. And when you do, you share your analysis of his behavior and ask for their opinion.

5. You think he’s always getting mad at you.



I can’t tell you how tired I am of doing one or all of the above tendencies. Yes, I used to do these. It is EXHAUSTING, focusing this much on one person. And frankly, you could be doing a lot more productive things with your time, instead of thinking about him every moment of everyday.



Curious about Sign #5? I’ve noticed that when I like someone—which leads to overanalyzing him—I tend to believe that he’s always mad at me. Even if it’s some kind of sad, unrequited, daydreamed crush, I still imagine that he’s upset with me or ignoring me. I tell my friends about my worries à la Sign #4. I say, “We’re having a fight right now.” I don’t know where the “he’s mad at me” comes from. It must be something we do to keep the relationship sounding dramatic and full of whimsy. Plus, Sign #5 also derives from self-importance.



No matter what, all of this is nitpicking. A big no-no. You’re focusing on his trivial actions, rather than the significant, telling actions (that we often ignore). Nitpicking might also be your insecurities rising to the surface—your self-esteem crying for help. Be conscious of what you’re paying attention to. I’ve said it before in an earlier post, but enjoy a relationship while it’s fresh and new, while nothing’s going wrong!



Love,


Zabrinah


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